Dating tips for divorced dads

By Jan Ellison I met my husband in college, but our romantic involvement was limited to a secret crush and a half-remembered kiss in the dorm bathroom.

He didn’t put me on a pedestal, but considered me an equal — a person he respected and trusted.

He invited me to Florida with his family at Christmas, and when we got back, he finally said those three magic words.

I wanted to know if height was the only difference and the constant deal breaker. And no amount of complaining is going to change it. And why, in God’s name, is it important to stand on your tiptoes to kiss a guy? Is there any legitimate reason not to go out with this amazing, amazing man?

So I moved my profile from Pittsburgh and posted it for 3 days in a town where nobody knew me (Philadelphia).

I didn’t want to mention it for the same reason that Tom didn’t want to mention it in his profile: because it’s irrelevant to anything that makes him a good accountant, husband, or father.

Yet his height defines him, since it has prevented otherwise interested women from being interested in him over the course of his entire life. He’s just been confronted with a very ugly reality that has shaken his confidence in people.

He challenged me to help him with the ropes, and the radio, when we sailed through a squall.

He was not an experienced sailor, but I knew he wouldn’t take unnecessary risks with me on board, and I felt safe in a way I had never felt with another man. I wanted flowers, dancing, compliments, and I told him so.

Moving slowly will make you seem poised and confident–even if you aren’t–and help you avoid embarrassing mistakes. Whether single, married or divorced, you have the opportunity to learn valuable skills to restart your life.

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